Earlier this year I thought I was going to lose a longtime friend because he said I wasn’t “honest enough” with him. I only said good things about his writing, his opinions, what he was doing, etc. and he felt that just couldn’t be right. I couldn’t possibly like everything he was doing.

He said that it can’t be a really true friendship if we only say god things about one another.  We have to be able to say the good and the bad.  Truth.

Now, I have  another longtime friend who is at risk because, at her insistence, I gave my opinion about how she might beheld through an enormously stressful period right now by asking doctor about anti-anxiety medicine. Wrong answer.

She now thinks that I am belittling her and thinks she can’t manage her life well.

Then earlier today I asked my husband to “speak more deeply” about a topic. He was offended that I didn’t think he was already “being deep.” (We had barely started the conversation; I was wanting more).

So I guess I need to shut up.

Something I’m doing is offending people who are very important to me. Maybe I just need to go away, alone, for awhile.  Something is out of sync and the place to look first is in the mirror.