i CAN do SOMEthing

I recall a grade school game where we would emphasis various words in the same sentence by shouting the word to give a different emphasis to the message. “YOU are going to take out the trash.” “You are GOING to take out the trash.” “You are going to take out the TRASH.”

I was thinking about this play on words after listening to the news headlines about global warming and another report confirming that it’s not “on it’s way…it’s here.” That ‘s why the weather patterns are so extreme.  (duh) Heat, floods, and even avalanches and earthquakes all seem to be Mother Earth trying to purge herself of..us?!

Always the optimist, I wondered if we couldn’t just all adopt the practice of believing, “I Can Do Something.”

Then I started playing with the emphasis of the words…

I can do something.  Yes, me.  I don’t have to wait on anyone else.  I can walk not ride.  I can not use, but instead reuse and recycle. I can do little things every day that add up to taking care of MYSELF by taking care of the air I breathe, the water I drink, the land I live on. I really have so much power over my life, but most people spend endless amounts of time and energy waiting on and blaming others for just about anything and everything.  “I” really determine my life.

i CAN do something.  CAN means it is possible.  There is always something that CAN be done right now to improve the environment around you.  CAN gives us hope.  I hear the despair in friends, newscasters and world “leaders.”  Have we really given up? CAN makes us think about options.  It opens our minds to wondering what else CAN I do today that helps…drink from a mug at the coffee shop, not a paper cup.

i can DO something.  For thirty years, NIKE has told us to “Just Do It.” I agree.  Quit the paralysis analysis. A very trite phrase, but true, yes?  DO something, anything productive right now.  Act, stop thinking.  DO, don’t wait on “proof.”  Your gut tells you that using plastic bottles and plastic bags can’t be good.  So don’t use them, starting now.

i can do SOMETHING. Just pick one thing, right now.  Several easy solutions have been mentioned already in this essay: walk don’t ride; no plastic; canvas bags reused, no plastic or paper bags. Imagine if you only did these things every day starting today.  Walking will improve your personal health and the environment.  No plastic reduces the need for petroleum production (plastic is an oil based product) plus animals will be safer from choking of plastic trash, and earth will just be cleaner.

It’s not complicated.  Don’t make this a big deal that overwhelms you.  You don’t have to save the whole world at once.  Just save your part of the world today.  Believe …

I Can Do Something.”

Marie Antoinette “Leaned In” and Look What Happened to Her!

I’m skeptical about the book, Lean In, by Facebook executive Sheryl Sandberg and its affiliated women’s power movement. Let me explain.

I completely support the concept that girls and women should “lean in” and actively participate in “the conversation.” To be actively engaged in your life and not a passive bystander while others make decisions. To realize your full potential as a person…being as smart as you can be, exploring, developing ideas and initiating action, and so on. I believe in equal rights for all people, I just don’t think the world (not even the supposedly more “progressive” US) allows for fair and equal treatment and opportunities for women.  In fact, my direct experience is that if you are female and “lean in” you’ll have your head chopped off.  In some countries, literally.

In America, only 23 of the Fortune 500 companies have a female CEO; women only make 77 cents for the same job as a man who makes a dollar; and women have always held significantly fewer seats in Congress, and that number is declining.

When the economic crisis of 2008 was in affect, there was not a week when an experienced professional working woman didn’t contact me to say she had been “downsized out” of her company.  I didn’t know one man with similar circumstances.  When a man lost his job it was when the entire company went under.

While I have been fortunate to be a high ranking executive in my current and previous institutions, in both cases I am “training” my (male) boss. In both jobs, the man was placed in his position with the CEO knowing he was not skilled or prepared. I accepted my current job knowing this and taking the chance that my boss was going to become the next CEO and I’d move up into his slot.  (That didn’t happen) In my previous job, however, the CEO actually asked me to train a male “peer” who was later promoted to a level higher than me.

It’s not just me.  I know women all over the world who regardless of profession or age are “moved over or moved out” when they become more visible and more successful in their organizations. A good friend of mine from London, was the international director for an organization based in the US when the CEO began an obvious campaign to “improve the international presence.” She was allowed to save face and resign.  Rather than replace this very successful executive with an internationally experienced professional, the American CEO hired another American, a male with an “exotic sounding” name.

While I continue to hope that all people can have fair and equal treatment based on skills, experience and personal characteristics, I don’t see it happening.

 

This Day, A Collision of Joy

This day, a collision of joy
This day of birthdays and religious contemplation
This day of sunshine and happy smiles
This day I was touched when my teenage son came to take an afternoon nap in the sun with the cats and me as we slept curled up on blankets on the floor
This day I rode my bike which always feels like freedom to me, memories of my childhood when two wheels let me go farther away from my home on a safe explore and return before dark
This day I said several prayers several times for the sherpas on Everest, the teenagers submerged on the ferry and the passengers on the still missing Malaysian plane
This day I live knowing little things can change the world and we can all do them: no plastic bottles, no plastic bags, walk, eat less meat, be kind to all living beings…and all is living
This day I remember joy is a choice

Walking Flatlands To Prep For Mountains

I’m a very healthy and athletic person, but have a “desk job” with a long commute by car so there’s only so much I can do each day to walk.  I walk at lunch and now am adding an evening walk of one to two hours.  All of this is on flatland.  Actually, flat concrete sidewalks.  Not anything near what I’ll experience hiking 6-8 hours a day up and down 4,000+ km.

I bought hiking shoes this week with proper soft wool socks.  They help my feet and legs feel less stiff and tired. The thirty minutes of yoga after each walk is when I feel the real relief from mild aches.  How will I practice the intensity of what I’ll experience four days and three nights on the trail between Cusco and Machu Picchu though?

My husband suggested we go to Colorado this summer and spend several days hiking up and down various mountains. Good idea, but I wonder if that’ll be enough prep?  I think I just have to assume yes and prep my mind for success as much as my body.

Can’t We Just Walk?

Since I don’t speak Spanish or the local Peruvian language, and I don’t really camp, I knew I would need a travel company of some kind to assist me in my desire to reach Machu Picchu on foot. So far though my searches with Backroads, REI, and Intrepid have yielded results that all involve sleeping in hotels. Every night.

This probably is a more realistic option for my urban living, but the dream of this trip is to be outdoors.  Sit by a campfire, stare at the millions of stars, listen to the night noises… Surprisingly, my even more city-living husband agrees.  He wants to walk from site to site, progressing from Cusco to Machu Picchu, not take day hikes from each night’s hotel.

Stunning. My husband doesn’t like yard work or the beach and now he wants to walk and camp for a week in Peru.  I’m beginning to think this trip is more than just a hike in the mountains.

We’ve Agreed On a Trip

Before we married, Rick and I discovered the things that were most important to us.  Spiritual beliefs, we both wanted children, commitment to family, and a desire to travel.  I have frequently joked over the years that I didn’t “read the fine print” on the last one, travel. My idea of travel is to go as far away from my American culture as possible.  My husband’s idea is the US, Canada and England, “only if we can find a TGI Fridays restaurant there.” Yikes.

So my preferred trips have been mostly associated with work and have been without my husband or our son. So it was with disbelief that for my birthday earlier this year, Rick gave me “Turn Right at Machu Picchu” by Mark Adams.  I had declared last fall I was going to take this trip in 2014, hoped he’s join me, but, if not, I was going anyway.  I’d  even had my photo taken at the National Geographic Headquarters in D.C. with Machu Picchu photoshopped behind my portrait to it looks at if I was standing at the lost city in the clouds.

I put this photo on the refrigerator and look at it daily.

Rick gave me a book and a Nat Geo video on “Mac P” and we immediately sat together to watch it.  I was mesmerized and more committed to this trip.  At the end of the video, however, my husband simply said, “Let’s go.  That looks interesting.”

Really?! Just like that, my Marriott-loving, English speaking only, hamburger eating husband of more than twenty years changed.  I don’t know whether it was more a renewed dedication to our marriage or a true desire to “take a journey,” but I don’t care.  We’ve agreed on an (interesting) trip.

Now, when…

Go Fly Now

Son.
We’ve given you love.
We’ve been steady all these years.
We’ve paid attention to you.
Been engaged in your life.
Believed in you.
Love you.
Just…
loved you.

Now,
you have to find those places in you
that make you,
you.

You have to feel your power
separate from us.
Defining and
refining.

We can’t do it for you.

It’s strange
being a loving parent
who must push her child
out of the nest.

Life in My Suitcase

Live on the road

Stay in the sky

Not really too certain

don’t understand why.

 

Just know that it’s me

its not against you

I know that I love you

I know that its true.

 

I feel an adventure in me everyday

There’s something inside me that makes me that way.

Still I love all the travel

There’s much I can do

I know its confusing

you think that its you.

Me?Walter Mitty? Hmmm…

I am beginning to realize, I may be a Walter Mitty. Watching the trailers for the new Ben Stiller movie about the fictional character who lives an exciting life in his imagination causes me to reflect on my own reality. How many times do I dream it but not do it.

I live an very active life that many consider interesting, but I want more.

What it the more?

Im going to explore that in 2014

Iced In, Thankfully

It doesn’t snow where I live. It ices.  Our region will drop 40 degrees within an hour. We can have balmy weather, leaves still on the trees, grass still green… by late afternoon the same day we can have a sheet –a thick sheet– of white ice covering everything.

That’s what happened last week.  And I welcomed it.

This “icemageddon” typically happens only once annually and so it is cost ineffective for cities to have trucks and equipment to deal with it.  As a result, most everything just shuts down until temperatures rise and ice melts.  Schools close. So work closes.

And then we go indoors…and stay.

Then the power goes out because iced tree limbs break and fall on powerlines. Electricity to non-residential units is cut so as to try and keep enough power that houses can stay warm.  After a day or two of no power, grocery stores have to throw out meat and dairy product.  That seems ironic.  It’s actually colder outside than in the refrigerated cases at the store, but….someone will get sick and sue, so out the food goes.

Deliveries stop (except I’ve noticed the beer trucks manage to resupply key locations).  Store shelves start to empty.

Invariably people try and play outside.  Children with no hat or gloves, sliding in sports shoes.  Cardboard boxes and cookie sheets converted into sleds.

This goes on for two, maybe three days, until conditions return closer to normal and everyone is “back at it.”  Last week was different.  Last week, we were iced in for six days.  Six days.  Five were such that you couldn’t drive around.

So we walked.  Ski pants and jackets.  Thermals underneath.  Hats. Gloves. Boots.  We ventured out to the post. Tried to find restaurants that were’t closed due to power outages.  The walks were several hours long simply because our steps had to be small and slow.

Everything slowed down.

I sat. I read. I looked outside at the white ice over everything.  I silently spoke to the trees out front whose branches were so heavy with ice they drooped to the ground.  I asked them to stay strong and not break.  Trees limbs were broken throughout the entire neighborhood.  Ours stayed strong.  I thanked them.

By the end of Day Two, I noticed the muscles in my shoulders.  At first I wondered what was causing me to be so tense. Then I realized that it was the lack of tension and my muscles were relaxing. The process of relaxing was actually making me aware that they hurt.

By Day Three my entire body was achey…from relaxing. That day I also began to be more comfortable doing nothing. Meanwhile, my husband began pacing like a caged cougar.  He insisted on the daily walks.  He started cleaning things in the house that didn’t need attention.  The more he paced, the stiller I became.

I rested, for five days.  Just rested.  No agenda. No busyness. I thought I, too, would become restless.  I didn’t.  I became quieter. Calmer. More content.  I didn’t want the temperatures to rise.  I liked stopping. I realized how long it had been since I had no agenda. No tasks.  No “things to do.”

I really can’t remember when I last took a real vacation or just several days off to sleep in, sit still, do nothing.

The ice melted too soon so me.  I was “back at it” because, well, because I had to be. Responsibility. A job. Things to do. The shoulders stopped hurting because they were tense again and I couldn’t feel them.

I wonder what two weeks of nothing would be like?